NDP MPP Sol Mamakwa reflects on his wife's death and support received

Understanding grief and loss is a deeply personal journey, and for many, navigating these complex emotions in the public eye adds an additional layer of challenge. This is particularly true for Sol Mamakwa, a Member of Provincial Parliament (MPP) in Ontario, who recently faced the heartbreaking loss of his wife, Pearl. Their relationship, marked by decades of love and partnership, serves as a poignant backdrop to his experience as he continues to advocate for Indigenous rights while coping with profound personal sorrow.

A portrait of love and loss

At the Ontario legislature, a painting created by Pearl hangs prominently in Sol Mamakwa’s office. The artwork portrays a brown hand descending from the sky, gently touching one of five brightly colored tents that sit atop a hill, each featuring a small round window. This imagery resonates deeply with Mamakwa, who sees it as a representation of connection—perhaps from the creator or from Pearl herself.

“I think it’s her hand down,” he reflects, indicating how the painting has become a symbol of their shared life and his ongoing connection to her. The five tents, he explains, represent his family: himself and his children. This visual reminder anchors him in his memories, even as he grapples with his grief.

Facing grief in the public arena

Since Pearl’s unexpected passing in June, Mamakwa has taken a step back from his role as one of the most vocal critics of the Ford government, particularly regarding Indigenous rights. He now limits his time at the legislature to just two days a week. At 54, he is learning to navigate life alone after spending over four decades with Pearl, his high school sweetheart.

Mamakwa’s experience with loss is not new; he has previously mourned the deaths of his father and brother. However, he describes this loss as the most challenging he has ever faced. “I lost my dad, yeah. I lost my brother, yeah. But this one’s the toughest of all,” he admits, revealing the depth of his heartache.

The circumstances surrounding Pearl's death

Pearl’s passing came swiftly and unexpectedly. She had been experiencing lower back pain and made two trips to the emergency room within 48 hours. On the second visit, tests revealed a severe infection. Tragically, her condition deteriorated rapidly after her admission to the Sioux Lookout Meno Ya Win Health Centre, where she succumbed to complications just hours later.

The coroner’s report indicated that she had a heart condition, along with fluid in her lungs and severe dehydration. This unexpected loss has left Mamakwa grappling not only with his personal grief but also with the questions that accompany such a sudden departure.

Remembering Pearl: A legacy of strength and support

Pearl was known for her deep pride in her Indigenous ancestry and her commitment to her family. In a photograph displayed in Mamakwa’s office, she stands proudly beside him and their children as he is sworn into the legislature for the first time. “It was kind of surreal,” he recalls of that moment in 2018, acknowledging the significant role Pearl played in his political journey.

Her support was instrumental in his decision to enter politics, and she managed the household while he pursued his ambitions. Their partnership was characterized by a unique balance. Despite their differences—Mamakwa enjoyed smoking and drinking while Pearl abstained—their love thrived. “We always talked that I would be the first to go,” he reflects, a statement that now carries a heavy weight.

Healing through sharing

Mamakwa has chosen to speak publicly about Pearl’s death as a means of healing. He aims to convey a message of acceptance surrounding grief, emphasizing that “it’s okay not to be okay.” In early December, he shared his experience in the legislature, stating, “It doesn’t matter which party you belong to, where you are from or the colour of your skin. We are all people, all the same.”

This sentiment resonates deeply, reminding us that life’s tragedies touch everyone, regardless of their backgrounds or political affiliations. Following Pearl’s death, Mamakwa received an outpouring of support from colleagues across party lines, with messages of condolence from both federal Liberal ministers and Progressive Conservatives.

Support from unexpected places

Among those who reached out were notable figures like Manitoba Premier Wab Kinew and Ontario Premier Doug Ford. Mamakwa recalls Ford’s words, which highlighted the camaraderie among MPPs: “As MPPs, we are families. We are a family. I know we may be a messed up family,” he chuckled, illustrating the solidarity that can emerge even in challenging times.

This support underscores the importance of community during times of personal tragedy. Mamakwa’s ability to connect with others while navigating his grief serves as a reminder of the shared human experience.

Political challenges amidst personal turmoil

Even during this difficult time, Mamakwa has remained vocal about Indigenous rights. Following Pearl's death, he continued to challenge government decisions, particularly concerning Bill 5, which expands governmental powers to expedite mining and development projects in the Ring of Fire region. His advocacy for First Nations rights is unwavering, emphasizing the need for proper consultation and respect for inherent and treaty rights.

“We’re fighting for rights, whether it’s inherent rights, treaty rights, land rights, and then the proper consultation that’s not happening,” he stated, highlighting the ongoing struggles faced by Indigenous communities.

A look ahead: navigating life and legacy

As Mamakwa prepares for a return to full-time work at the legislature, he reflects on his journey. He acknowledges the uncertainty of the future but expresses a sense of purpose. “I don’t know what the creator’s plan for me is. I don’t know what the ancestors’ plan for me is,” he shared, indicating a deep trust in the paths laid out before him.

Despite the overwhelming nature of his grief, Mamakwa is committed to honoring Pearl’s memory through his advocacy and his role within the community. He understands that his journey is not just about personal loss, but also about contributing to a larger narrative of resilience and hope.

Moving forward with hope

Mamakwa's experience serves as a powerful reminder of the strength found in vulnerability. By sharing his story, he not only honors Pearl's legacy but also opens the door for others to embrace their struggles openly. His journey through grief is not just a solitary path; it is intertwined with the lives of many who face similar challenges, ultimately fostering a sense of community and shared healing.